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spurgin

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2011-02-08 1-00-02-

introduction and ?'s about the community Hello all. I have enjoyed the discussions on this forum and have responded to posts, but never really introduced myself. I am 52 and identified as a bisexual from the age of 11 until June 2007. I have always been totally comfortable in my bisexual identity, have been more attracted to women, and have gone through long periods of monogamy, along with long periods of polyamoury. I changed from identifying as a bisexual to identifying as a dyke because as a life-long feminist, it suddenly made absolutely no sense to share any of my emotional and sexual energy with a man. I have never switched my orientation before and am sure that this is a permanent change. The thing is…I don’t feel comfortable with the lesbian community, but it is where I belong. When I was in my 20’s I attended a couple of lesbian parenting meetings with my female lover. We were shunned because we did not fit into the flannel shirt continuum but were punks with leather jackets, fishnets etc. This was 1979 and in Ohio, so you can imagine that we stuck out! Times have changed…at least it has appeared so. There are so many flavors of dyke appearance. I no longer get slammed for sexualizing women, wanting kinky sex, or for appreciating the butch-femme dynamic, the way I did in 1979. But biphobia is rampart in the lesbian community, and it feels weird to hang with women that would have hated my ass months ago. I have gone to social groups; was a new group and the only other attendee was the somewhat predatory group leader, and in the other group I felt as shunned as I did with the parenting group in 1979 and am not sure why they were so rude. I was older than the other attendees (they were in their 20’s and early 30’s) and I am guessing that I might look straight (I’m kind of low-key, artsy looking), but is the lesbian community still that closed-minded? And maybe ageist? And why are you all so biphobic anyway? I’m pretty lonely, don't know what to do with all this hostility against bi's, and am frustrated as hell!
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2011-02-10 3-43-23-

to clarify I don't mean to sound as judgemental as all that. The threesomes are fine, really. It's just that lesbians aren't going to want to be involved with the man. Some don't want to be involved with a woman who is also actively involved with men. But mostly it's like the "Bis" in question drop in and say "looking for discreet affair" which means their bi-ness is closeted or they are cheating and then they get all shocked and offended when they get noone jumping into their arms. Who wants to be the other woman? What does the third get out of all that? sigh.......so many thoughts so little time. Sorry, gotta really go now.
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2011-02-10 11-18-17

my personal experience has been different My experience has been the opposite; many of my lesbian friends wanted to have sexual contact with my male ex, but I think it was because of their sexual curiosity and the fact that he was had a low libido along with good looks, therefore was not at all sexually threatening but superficially hot. And a lot of them wanted threesomes. AND, most lesbians that I know have sex with men on an irregular basis. It seems hypocritical for them to be biphobic. Although I realize that my experiences with lesbians wanting threesomes might be unusual, it is part of my history and I do base part of my irritation on what I perceive as lesbian hypocrisy in the greater lesbian community. And yes, having to fend off lecherous couples would get to me too, and I don’t think they belong in the forums (just like women looking for other women don’t belong in the forums). Most bisexuals that I know are not looking for threesomes and do not want of each.
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2011-02-12 4-28-49-

hmmm, I've never met lesbians like the ones you described. Everyone is free to label themselves as they wish but personally I wouldn't label myself lesbian if I were acting like the ones you described. I think it's not really a wise thing to assume that all lesbians feel way or another - each person thinks differently. I don't subscribe to some Lesbian Manifesto and only think way. I see people and life based on my personal experiences, values and opinions...please give others the benefit of doubt that they also have their own way of thinking. I have a lot of bi friends and we can respect our own individual choices in life - I also understand that being bi doesn't mean that you are poly or only out for sex. Many of my bi friends are in long-term, exclusive relationships with person. IMO many bi's have this "victim" complex - like all lesbians are hating them or something. Like Boston_Bean wrote many lesbians don't hate the bi women so much as the postings we see constantly...and those who use their bi-ness just to turn guys on or who want to use lesbians and other women as sex toys. I detest to the objectification of all women and I'm personally offended by women or men who think because I'm not straight that I would be interested in being a sex toy for them or their partner. But that's my personal thing...you can take it as "all lesbians" feel this way or that way or you can not stereotype and assume - that's your choice.
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2011-02-13 6-23-56-

I identify as Lesbian and have since I was in my early 20s (I'm 50 now) and I've had sex with men. Was married to a man, although that was a lifetime ago, I divorced him when I was 22. What makes me lesbian is my love for and attraction to women. I feel love and desire and arousal and all sorts of other feelings that make a woman all wonderfully consuming to me. I never feel that with men. Ever. But I have had intermittent sex with men over the years. Every once in a while I'd get a yen to take out for a spin and when I was done with that I was done with him. It's cruel to hear myself say that, it sounds much the same as the come-ons from the bis who come in here wanting a female body for their titillation and nothing more. But that's how it was and I can't undo it. And every time it served as a reminder of how thankful I am to be lesbian. But that's also from a lifetime ago. I'm pretty much a woman woman at this point in my life. And I don't much care about and have never really been bothered by the purist lesbians who think that I don't have the right, in their opinion, to identify as lesbian. I yam what I yam.
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2011-02-24 5-13-49-

If by 'irregular' sex you mean 'experiment' or 'investigate' then I would consider those sporadic instances to be primarily for those reasons. Why these women are having sex with men could be based on a multitude of personal reasons and for anyone to make judgments and generalized statements pertaining to an entire group is rather a leap, don't you think? I can tell you that, without meeting your ex, I would not have any inclination to have sex with him, "hot" or not, but that's just me; I love women--they're soft, warm, and they smell good, what's not to love?
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2011-04-09 13-05-41

Like I said, doesn't really matter. It she wants to tell me WHY it's negged, maybe I could do something about it. Or not. ;)
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2011-06-26 2-46-00-

negs... I am incredulous that people get negs for days after posting certain things; unpopular opinions? About disliked topics? I though you were overstating, but can see that it is true.
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2011-08-03 22-53-48

I understood about all posts getting negged... not the initial one(s) in the initial thread. Too weird.
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  • stanard

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    2011-08-23 4-03-36-

    I meant the lesbian community at large... not just this forum. I have been brooding about this issue for a couple of days. And thanks Boston_Bean.
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    2011-10-06 16-32-49

    Can't please everyone, I guess. Find people you like and who like you. There is no lesbian "community" though. Just lesbians. Just like there's no bisexual "community." The world's a big place with all kinds of people in it. If you get to know them as individuals, rather than generalizing and viewing them as somehow monolithic, you'll probably have a lot more success I don't know anyone who's "bi-phobic". Honestly. I've never in my life met a lesbian who hates bi-women. Guess I've been lucky.
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    nobuhiko

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    2011-10-18 21-05-02

    biphobic is not a myth I have met plenty of lesbians who are biphobic. And I was involved in the bi activist communty for years so know there is a bi community. There are groups of women that identify as lesbian and hang out together based upon their orientation plus their interests. For instance...lesbians that ride motorcycles or lesbians, that are political activist. Sure the world is a big place, but I still think that there is a larger lesbian community with smaller sub-communities. I have been trying to find groups of women like me, have found some possibilities, but have had difficulty fitting in. Sure, maybe I have not found the "right" group, but I do not think my experiences are unique.
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    2011-12-16 15-16-09

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    2012-01-03 8-14-33-

    I have a very different experience and I agree with BB, the world's a big place with all kinds of people. The reality is, there's no monolithic "lesbian community" out there - although people do reference this mythical beast constantly. So when you ask "why are you all so bi-phobic anyway?" ARE we? And who do you mean by "you" - we of the fo, or we of the (to me) mythical lesbian community? Me, I haven't met any dykes, on or off the fo who shun bi-sexuals. Cheater whores or gals trolling for a toy for hubby may get a tough ride, yeah, but not bisexuals per se. (We are sometimes rough on "bi-curious" posters here, but there is a bi forum more suited to those queries.) My experience is that we as humans tend to gather our own communities - friends, allies, lovers, comrades, partners in crime - from the people we meet. I have my own community, all ages and all kinds. Some are like-minded lesbian folk, some are straight people, some are bi, some trans - and some are an indescribable mixture. The variety is welcome to me. I know the power and value of women's space, and of lesbian space, but I personally love human variety. And for what it's worth, many of the dykes I know are punks - but I did get some flak from some lesbians in the xs for having long hair. I just decided to hang out with people who didn't do that.
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    2012-03-06 17-52-09

    Eep, my mistake rigatoni said the world's a big place, not BB - but I agree with BB's posts, too.
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    2012-04-20 6-22-41-

    What makes you think it was biphobia? Or that biphobia is so rampant? I don't know why those particular people were rude. Incase you say there was onlyother person even there (and she sounds unpleasant anyway). In the other case -- I dunno, how were they rude? What did they do or say? Maybe that group acts like that with everyone who comes in new (and do you really want to hang with people who act like that?) My experience has been that women in social situations don't really give a rat's patoot how you ID, particularly in kinkworld, as long as you aren't doing things like dragging a boyfriend to women-only events, or talking incessantly about a husband.
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    2012-07-23 17-41-17

    i think i'm in a unique position to respond to this posting. i'm inof these groups that she talks about and i'm totally confused by your statement. for reference, everyone, it's a group of crafty queers. the group was rather poorly attended yesterday given some weekend hijinks of others so yesterday it was just AP, me and another. during the time that AP was there, we spoke of the other girl's birthday plans, my schoolwork and AP's upcoming art show. as we fell into our own silent crafty zones, i looked up and there was AP walking out the door. no goodbyes, no see you laters, nothing. who shunned who? we were both stunned and slightly offended. and in direct response to your questions: x) i never assumed you were straight x) i never assumed there was an age requirement, or felt you didn't meet it x) thought i knew you had been bi from the fo' i never once mentioned it to anyone else, nor did i mention i knew you from the fo'.
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    2012-10-09 13-14-57

    Oh, are you the predatory crafter? Cool! You could knit teeth into your hats, and stuff.
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    Do you know how to quilt? I've been looking for years, literally years for a dyke quilting circle. I don't know how to quilt or I'd startmyself. I don't even know what a good first project would be. Over the years I've saved all my old favorite T-Shirts (and believe me, they've amassed) and I want to quilt them into a quilt but I don't have a clue how to do it. I gotta admit I'd probably be turned on by a predatory lesbian craft leader.
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    2012-11-14 1-41-08-

    Misthread, apologies. This is for nushka
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    For me or for queenindisguise? No, sorry, probably any quilt I attempted would be sad and askew. And not by design.
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    i've attempted, but not very successfully! you might want to ask AP for info on thatsince she's the quilter.
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    yes, I can quilt Yes, a lesbian quilters group would be very nice. I would love to quilt with and browse fabric stores with other dykes. And there was never a predatory lesbian craft leader, but that is a kind of hot idea. I feel so raised-by-wolves (socially clumsy) right now! Sorry to Queenindisguise.
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