Thanks for the advice She seems open-minded to a point .... we have tried to watch porn, which she is excited to do, but then when it comes on ... she always says it is too fake and wants it to be real couples otherwise it does not turn her on. And it is hard for me to find creal couple ones theat will introduce my fetishes I am in to bondage and anal

Is your partner open to watching porn? Together, I mean? Throw some porn on with the subject matter you wish to bring up as the theme, and gauge your partner's reaction, or ask if your partner finds it hot. Also, you could ask your partner what turns him or her on, and maybe s/he will respond in kind and ask you about your fetishes or kinks.

What is communication like with your partner? Do you talk about lots of stuff easily?

communication is good I am in a new relationship, but I wanted a female perspective on when would it be to soon to talk about. Also, wanted to see if it is better to communicate before or bring it up during sex. Did not know what would get a better reaction

What kinks are you looking to introduce?

Well, not all women are the same, and not all fetishes/kinks are the same, so remember to filter any advice you get here with the knowledge of what your specific partner is like. Does she seem adventurous? Flexible? Open-minded? What are the specific fetishes/kinks on the table here?

Thanks for the advice She seems open-minded to a point .... we have tried to watch porn, which she is excited to do, but then when it comes on ... she always says it is too fake and wants it to be real couples otherwise it does not turn her on. And it is hard for me to find creal couple ones theat will introduce my fetishes I am in to bondage and anal

For me, if it's something new, I really like having him tell me x) how incredibly hot he finds it, and x) why he finds it so hot. Having it in words helps (for me), as does a lot of enthusiasm. It's also nice to know that a particular act isn't a deal-breaker--that is, that I don't HAVE to do it in order to keep him happy. That takes the pressure off, and makes me more willing to try a few times. Bondage and anal aren't that freaky or rare (IMO), so if you sell 'em right, they shouldn't send her screaming into the hills. Could you find still photos that show the act/mood you like? (I know what she means about a lot of porn looking fake.)

maybe the gift of erotica to read rather than watching porn. Women do love the words.

Have your tried xtube.com? That site is like ... YouTube but it's supposed to be mostly amateur videos folks have uploaded of themselves. Since I've been visiting xtube, it does seem like more commercial clips are up there than before, but there's still a fair amount of amateur stuff. Maybe spend some time together seeing what kind of clips others have uploaded will give you some idea of how she'll react? If she sees a clip and wants to see more of it, maybe that's a clue that's something that appeals to her? Oh, and I love your user id. I'm from Humboldt County, myself.

Argh argh argh. Yes, and there's redtube and tnaflix and shufuni, all have lots of amateur free clips.

cool Had no idea about these sites thanks

Oh, there's also youporn.com and if you like BDSM dominationtube.com, although that's mostly free clips of commercial (versus amateur) stuff you can find on kink.com, a pay porn site. I enjoy redtube.com and tnaflix.com for the fetish stuff, but shufuni has a great jackoff category (I do not like to watch women masturbate, only men, and few other sites NOT dedicated to male homosexuals seem to cater to this kink of mine) such that I almost exclsuively use it to watch guys jack off. Oddly, I never got into xtube, and the very name of the site makes me cringe, but I know it's just like the other sites in that you can find lots of amateur clips, and it's all free.

try tubegalore.com It takes and searches all the sites and puts them in site

during sex is never really a good time to bring up major kinks. That tends to blindside most people. I tend to touch on the subject on the second or third date. But then I am a blunt, forward kind of person.

Although sometimes it works out okay. I dunno. Skandie brought upof his kinks during sex, because that was the only way he felt comfortable bringing it up. The problem was when I tried to discuss what we had discussed/fantasized about/incorporated into our sex the night before in the morning, and he wanted me to drop it and never bring it up. It's good to be able to discuss the things you discuss in the dark with an erection in the light of day, too.

Pillow talk after great sex is good too.

true, some cannot communicate with the lights on and there was a phase in my life where the only kink I had was the talking about it during sex. but for a lot of people, hearing about it the first time during sex can freak them out, especially if it's something they are not comfortable with.

need to be more forward too I can see about bring it up early in the dating processes, but it would be much easier for the woman probably turns on most guys. But, how do you bring it up with women without it coming off too strong

I don't dwell on it nor do I discuss it in depth the first few times. I leterally just throw out the disclaimer "Hey, I really like you and I think this has some real potential. You should know that I am into kinky sex. I wanted to put that out there now so if there is an issue with that we don't waste each other's time." Then they usually ask how kinky and I'll give them a couple of examples. Not too much information, it's not the time to discuss all the nitty gritty details.

you are right I need to start the converstion much early in dating. Using your more subtle approach ... I am sure that it makes them ask quesions. which is easier to talk about the topic since they asked.

I keep it fairly casual and light at first and you are right, leading them into asking questions tends to make them more comfortable with pursuing the subjects.

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We talk a lot about how to improve communication It's the most important thing you can do for your relationship. Here are some previous conversations on the topic. A starting thought: a testimonial to communications. But I'm embarrassed read this whole thread: Start here and read the whole sub thread below it:

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